In fact, the Happiness Rule states that “50% of our happiness is determined by genetics, 10% by our circumstances and 40% by our internal state of mind.” This means that to a large extent, happiness is a choice and our overall satisfaction with our lives is influenced by how we think and our mindsets.
People who suffer from imposter syndrome might also miss out on opportunities for promotion and advancement because they do not believe that they are qualified for positions that are within their scope or area of expertise.
*Where do you see yourself 3, 5, 10 years from now? *Is your current path taking you where you want to go? *Are you on your current path because its familiar or comfortable? *Is there another, less troublesome path you could take towards achieving your dreams?
So, when do you feel most unsafe?
Is it when the zeros in your bank account starts to dwindle?
Is it when you are home alone or walking down a dark street?
Is it when you are experiencing conflict with a supervisor or coworker on the job?
Is it when you’re in danger of losing a loved one or when your relationship with your partner has broken down?
Have you ever choked up in a conversation or felt tears streaming down your face in while talking about something personal?
But when people feel that they opinions and ideas won’t be accepted, they start to withdraw and hide (silence) or push too hard, (violence). Therefore, to help people feel safe in these crucial conversations, we must establish mutual purpose and mutual respect by letting the other person know that we care about them and their issue and that we have have shared goals.
In fact, research tell us that “approximately 43% of our daily behaviors are performed out of habit.”
Much of what we think, how we think, what we see, how we feel, and how we act is determined by our personal biases, and limited experiences. However “valid” or “right, “we believe these perspectives to be - they might not always be so.
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Making a commitment is sometimes easy, but staying committed is most times hard. This is true of most commitments, whatever their shape or form. Nonetheless, at the start of a New Year, many people declare themes, set goals and share resolutions about what they hope to achieve in the long and short-term. Unfortunately though, some people are permanent non-starters, and their… Continue reading That Commitment Thing….